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Sunday Is Spam Day!

Listening to AC/DC, but very quietly. Soon I'll want silence.

Hormones crazy, still. I am curious about their levels, hopefully I can get a blood test soon. They are getting a bit annoying with the lack of an outlet beyond what's in the toy drawer. I want another chatbuddy (uh oh, TMI)!

Can't be arsed thinking about dinner, relieved to remember I've got Thai takeaway in the fridge from Friday.

Successfully printed an erotic photo of the internet today. Am now pondering the ethics of its display, because my home is also a workplace and workers are entitled to not be challenged by pornographic images. I guess that means I will only display it in the room that they rarely, if ever, go in to. Sadly, I don't go in there much either.

I was chatting to someone last night about worrying about what other people think. I realised I care much less about what people think as regards my sexual predilections now. One of my carers knows I keep porn, because we inadvertently stumbled across some while she was helping me unpack. Although she was surprised - it was in the box of serious academic stuff - she laughed and said she'd seen stuff far more extreme. She's since talked about sex toys as a reasonable possession, bringing on another big hooray for the staff of [location redacted].

Part of the reason is I don't have much to lose. My sense of dignity isn't challenged by what I like anymore. And I don't have much to fear from other people: my remaining family members would most likely roll their eyes and nothing more, I don't have a job, nor am I in public office. My carers are other mature women who, it seems, have good attitudes about sexuality, and I do intentionally keep their workplace as I believe it should be.

If I do buy that honking big vibrator I've seen it would be more convenient to keep it out on a shelf, but for the sake of the workplace I won't do that.


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Jul. 21st, 2013 09:34 am (UTC)
Tumblr is the best for finding porn in a non threatening way...I hope their new rules don't muck that up.

I'm now curious to see this honking big vibrator!
Jul. 21st, 2013 09:38 am (UTC)
Not something you'll be seeing here, especially if I do buy one. Even I have some modesty.

Jul. 21st, 2013 09:39 am (UTC)
So is there really a limit on how many tumblr blogs I can follow? Seems odd.
Jul. 22nd, 2013 08:07 am (UTC)
I don't think there is? At least, I haven't reached it..and I'm following a ton.

Would you mind if I added you over there, Splodge? I'm here.

(sorry for the million comment edits. I shouldn't be allowed to do HTML in the AM)

Edited at 2013-07-22 08:09 am (UTC)
Jul. 22nd, 2013 01:52 pm (UTC)
I'd be delighted! I think I just found you and have you followed. X-files pics? :)

I'm splodgenoodles there as well. I'll probably use another Lady Penelope avatar. I have no idea if I'll have an active presence, but I'll be perusing other peoples'.
Jul. 22nd, 2013 08:02 am (UTC)
Me too. I knew that when Yahoo bought it, things would change..
Jul. 21st, 2013 10:15 am (UTC)
A vibrator that HONKS???? Well, whatever floats yer boat! ;-)
Jul. 21st, 2013 01:43 pm (UTC)
It might not float my boat per se, but at least the other boats won't run into me.
Jul. 22nd, 2013 07:10 am (UTC)
*makes foghorn noises*
Jul. 21st, 2013 12:08 pm (UTC)
if you do I can recommend the rabbit but I do admire your sense of duty to your carers. I have seen 9 inch devices advertised as shoulder masagers in catalogs delivered to my door. Was not fooled but perhaps you could call it art? Sex is part of life and life is art or so i hear..
Also there is a distinction between porn and what my mom would call beefcake. So hot guys minus salient attributes might be ok.

This Is Me Your Pro-sex activist.
Jul. 21st, 2013 01:35 pm (UTC)
If I could get a rabbit toy that lasted as long as a real bunny, I'd be a very happy girl. (Secret: the one I'm looking at now is "The Cone". Bwahahahah).

Um, this is a hot woman. And if I saw it at work, I'd consider it inappropriate.

Those shoulder massagers are powerful, but way too noisy for my taste.
Jul. 21st, 2013 10:32 pm (UTC)
cofffe table boooks a display folder boook.... I am now curious.
Jul. 22nd, 2013 07:11 am (UTC)
While their catalogue may not all be available in your locale, Good Vibrations has useful ratings of both vibration intensity and noise.
Jul. 22nd, 2013 07:25 am (UTC)
I once had a friend whose then-roommate was a dominatrix. Her living room had lots of plants on very hefty plant hangers which doubled as people hangers, clever flip-the-frame-over artwork, bright throw pillows with interesting pockets on the hefty black leather sofa, and furnishings which cunningly disguised all sorts of equipment. I don't remember why they felt the need to do this disguise - perhaps the landlord was prudish? Somebody's mum coming over a lot? But it's such an interesting decoration idea, transformer rooms and double-sided frames. Perhaps a removable fig leaf on the picture?

I generally prefer to keep the sex toys not-out simply because I'd be damned annoyed if I ever had to dust them. Although there is a pile of "back massagers" by the bed these days, because I figured out that they pass as medical equipment, and hey, you can actually use them on your back too!
Jul. 21st, 2013 03:34 pm (UTC)
You know, sexuality is an integral part of a person and I can't see any reason to not revel in who you are.
Jul. 22nd, 2013 02:45 am (UTC)
Being less inhibited about sexuality is one of the things I'm loving about getting older. I think it's lovely that you are thoughtful about how it impacts others (plenty of people aren't thoughtful about anything at all) but I think that the more people who are accepting about it just being a natural and normal part of being human, the better.
Jul. 22nd, 2013 07:20 am (UTC)
Having previously worked at a magazine called Anything That Moves with people who were occasionally pro tops, sex line workers (of both the "pay to get off" variety and the help line variety), porn stars, and a few other combinations of San Francisco specialty - I am still relatively modest about my own personal habits, but quite happy to talk about the stuff in general. I do sometimes quail a bit about giving advice in some situations, but having been Known As A Queer Polyamorous Kinky Lady for a while means sometimes newbs will blush and ask you polite questions, and I do my best to answer in a friendly advice-columnist sort of way without mentioning much about what I do in private. Or disabled friends, who sometimes lack the resources I have here in sexpositivecity. This sort of level of talking about it "Lots of people find that X is particularly useful for Y, and it's also totally normal to like Z, but always use lube that doesn't harm your sex toys" is easy, but I'm still fairly quiet about what I personally prefer except in very vague terms - that's for after the first makeout session, IMO (or at least for after someone's expressed interest in me rather than in what I hide in the toy box).

(One exception to this is that my mother has occasionally made noises about being a sexual being recently, and I do not think I am remotely up to the task of giving my mother her first tour of Good Vibrations without melting from embarrassment. Although I note that her widowhood has meant that she no longer needs to think she can't talk about her sexual needs since she doesn't have a man there supposedly fulfilling them all. Although for all I know he did, just that - us older ladies do get a break that way if there's no bloke around.)

And yes, being a disabled older unemployable lady does mean one no longer has to worry about what one's employers may Google about one. Which is very nice, both for sex things and for politics.
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